Impending Fatherhood (Again)
As I sit typing this, Marla is sitting across the room reviewing another PhD Thesis. She is possibly the most beautiful thing I could lay my eyes on. I can’t tell her that cause she would not believe me.
With about 2 weeks to go before Alicia is born, Marla is in that “very uncomfortable” stage. Allthough “very uncomfortable” probably does not come close.
As I am about to become a dad again (not that that is the kind of thing you can do again, in reality you just add to your existing dad status), I think again and again of what It felt like the first time and how things are a different (but at the same time rather alike) the second time.
Shortly after CJ’s birth, Marla and I were tempted to write a book. In the run up too the birth, throughout the entire pregnancy, we were given a lot of advice, read books went to classes and basically saturated ourselves in the ‘event’. We were so prepared for any eventuality on the day of the birth, we were level headed, we were ready.
We were going to call the book – “The lies people tell you”. Nothing went as planned. 20 hours and one cesarean later, I was a dad. I now had 2 amazing girls in my life (Marla and CJ – not twins). And my life has never been the same since.
Now 2 weeks away from the birth of number 2, we are facing another ‘upheaval’. This time though we have been through it before. But I am not going to fall for that line, sure we will be more relaxed, sure a lot of it will feel like familiar territory. But every kid is different, every birth is different. Sure, Alicia will have brown hair and brown eyes and a darker complexion than her father, but then, just like CJ, her mother is Portuguese, so a blond haired, green eyed little girl is out of the question. But you know what I mean…
- CJ loved her dummy – But that does not mean Alicia will.
- CJ needed to be swaddled in order to get her to sleep – who knows how Alicia will react to that.
Any number of things could be different, but these are some things that will be the same:
- I will fall in love all over again.
- God will make it possible for me to love one more person completely and fully, without my love for anyone else diminishing.
- Once again I will feel for another person something of what God must feel for each of us.
I cant wait to meet her!
grin
sweeeet
write the book
write the book
write the book
well, at least I think you should
Phill
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The problem is that memories fade with time
That was very special my love! Thank you for being an amazing father, and an unbelievable support to me.
I still worry about having to “share” my love with 2, and it aches me that I’ll have less time for Chrystina. So I pray that it is a promise that God will make it possible and not just a hope!
The time thing will probibly be an issue, but there will always be enough love to go around
Just love both your girls as much as you can 
hey dude. this was a really awesome post… makes me excited about the whole fatherhood thing! cool point about the non-diminishing-for-others-yet-fully-loving love.
awesome man. Should we be expecting any litlte Dunlops soon?
heh… one day.. not just yet! need to annex some more territory for the little one(s).